Sunday, March 29, 2020

Getting what you need during social distancing

I've suspended in-person sessions since January and hope to resume them when the pandemic is well and truly passed, but for now... what are you doing to get your needs met? Or, if your deepest need is to serve someone else's needs... how are you achieving that?

Might I suggest a safe way to maintain appropriate social distancing?

Be my text sub. I'll be your Text Mistress. Think of this as a long-distance service arrangement. Sometimes we'll just chat and it will be casual. Sometimes I'll have an assignment for you or ask you for photos. Sometimes I'll send them.

Intrigued? Jump over here and find out how:

Wednesday, February 5, 2020

Fingernails as a tool of domination & sensation

Nails. I love getting my nails done! They're not just pretty, but they're so practical in my line of work. My nails can make you shiver from sensuous light touch... deliver the most satisfying back scratch... make you gasp as they score your scalp... or yowl from a serious clawing.

Manicure day is tomorrow!

Thursday, November 28, 2019

Don't let 2019 escape without checking this off your list...

[UPDATE: December is booked. Happy New Year, darlings! I'll post January dates soon.]

Remember that list of things you wanted to do by the end of 2019? Well, it's coming up soon. So if your goals were to be more active in kink... to have a diapering/ABDL session... to experience an exquisitely paced spanking... to have your makeup done properly... to finally experience the lucsiousness of rope... I have THREE session dates open in December:

Sunday, December 8, 7pm to midnight
Saturday, December 14, all day
Sunday, December 15, 11am to 4pm

Here's how to make an inquiry:

See you under the mistletoe!

Sunday, November 3, 2019

November 9: Grand Island, NE

Just wrapped up a travel weekend to Cedar Rapids, IA, where I took private sessions and also presented several informational panels about BDSM at a small science-fiction convention, ICON. Thanks to those who attended and it's always nice to make new friends!

On to Grand Island, NE, where I have two openings for Saturday, November 9th. This is a great opportunity to explore your interests, find out what you like and don't like, and get much-needed "escape time" with someone who knows what the hell they're doing ;-)

One hour is a good amount of time to try out a small session of "traditional" BDSM activities like being tied up, flogged, spanked, foot workship, CBT, or the like. The rate is $200 + hotel split of $40.

A 90-minute session is the perfect amount of time to get comfortable and go over courtesies and expectations, spend time in session, and allow time for aftercare. 90 minutes is $250 + hotel split of $40.

I'm also an excellent Nanny for all you ABDLs and Littles who need some attention! Nanny time is a $50 booking fee and $60/hour flat rate for a total of $110.

For more session ideas, check out my favorite activities here.

I am real and verified, and happy to put you in touch with others who can vouch for me in the face-to-face community in Nebraska & Iowa, so get in touch: or send me a PM on FetLife!

Thursday, September 26, 2019

Booking Availability

Autumn is my favorite season and there's so much that keeps me busy... but I do have some dates available for booking a session! Here's what's open currently. As they become booked I will update them as soon as possible:

Fri Nov 1, 6:00-9:00pm in Cedar Rapids, IA
Sat Nov 2, 3:00-10:00pm in Cedar Rapids, IA
Sun Nov 3, 10:00am-2:00pm in Cedar Rapids, IA -- coffee dates only 
NEW: Sat Nov 9 in Grand Island, NE
Sun Nov 10 in Lincoln, NE - booked
Tue Nov 12 after 7:00 pm in Lincon, NE
Thu Nov 14 after 5:30pm in Lincoln, NE
Sat Nov 16 at Vortex Omaha
Sat Nov 30 in Lincoln, NE
Sun Dec 1 before 4pm in Lincoln, NE
Tue Dec 10 after 6pm - booked
Fri Dec 13 after 6pm in Lincoln, NE
Sun Dec 15 before 4pm in Lincoln, NE

Wednesday, September 11, 2019

"Why do I have to pay a deposit?"

Why do I have to pay a deposit? You "professionals" are a bunch of scammers.

I understand, especially in the past few years, that it's been easy for people to pop up online posing as Mistresses, ProDoms, and Dominatrixes, and bilking unwitting subs for money--with no intention of delivering a session.

So I'd like to explain why I require a non-refundable deposit early in our negotiations for a play session.

By the time someone books a date & time with me, I have usually spent a couple of hours in communication with that person, answering questions, explaining what to expect, clarifying the person's interests and limits, and looking at possible dates; and I begin to make preparations and plans. The reason I ask for a non-refundable deposit is as follows:

  • The deposit is a type of earnest money, to show you are serious about booking.
  • The deposit is non-refundable because if you cancel, I don't get my prep time back.
  • I set aside whatever personal or social plans I may have otherwise made, to hold the time you booked.
So, how can you be sure you aren't getting scammed?
  • Does the person have a website? Does it explain what the person does and doesn't do? Does it lay out policies and information clearly? Does it appear to have been updated in recent months or does it look like it's a relic from the early 2000s?
  • If the person is on FetLife or another social network, is there a complete profile?
  • Are photos somewhat recent -- at least within the past year?
  • Look through the person's feed. Does the person interact on FetLife or the social media site, or is the account mainly being used to post the same ad over and over in different groups?
  • Is the person willing to provide references--people who have either been clients and have agreed to be contacted, OR people who know the person within the local face-to-face kink community where they attend events together?