Sunday, April 23, 2017

Travel: Des Moines, IA

Hello, my Iowa beauties! I will be in Des Moines the weekend of May 5-7 and will be taking 1/2-hour to 2-hour appointments. Whether you're looking for an old-fashioned spanking, or to dress up and put on a pretty face, or to worship a feminine foot - or something else -  this is the perfect opportunity for you to try a short, focused session with a Dominatrix who has 20 years experience in the lifestyle. As a reminder, rates can be found here; and you can contact me at SoftSandalwood@gmail.com to inquire about making your dreams come true!

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Sweet & sensual sadism

I used to think I was not a sadistic domme.

Slowly, I have come to realize that I am. But my cruelty is rather sweet.

More than once, I have observed dungeon play in which the masochist submissive's ass went from a large patch of pink... to red... to bright red... to a huge patch of blueish-purple fully covering most of the cheeks before the scene is even over. And if you know about the stages of bruising, you know that the bruise will continue to bloom and swell over the next 24 hours or so... so that submissive is going to be seriously, seriously marked and sore. I've seen the sub who has open wounds and is bleeding from caning and/or whipping. That person will probably also bruise up over the next few days.

Some subs want that. I'm not judging. I'm just saying I'm not that type of domme. Oh sure, when we're done, you might have some bruising appearing a day or two later, unless you've specifically asked not to be marked in which case I will err on the side of caution with impact activities. [If you want this kind of rougher play, my friend sinfulnostalgia is your type!]

But I definitely am a sadist--just in a different way.

I am the Dominatrix who is going to have you count the strokes that I administer to you. When I notice that you are flinching and starting to writhe and yelp and try to move away from the paddle, I might come close to you, so you can feel my body heat, and whisper in your ear, "Yes, that hurts, doesn't it?" as I caress that tender spot with gentle fingertips. Then I'll give you a few more strokes and if I can't hear you, you're going to have to repeat the count. "You'll do those again for me, won't you sweetheart? I know you want to make me happy. You can do it. Just a few more." WHACK. WHACK.

"Ouch!" you bellow, and I pull close to you again and say softly, "Say 'Ouchie, Ms. Sandalwood, ouchie, please, no more!' Go ahead and say it."

You comply as I paddle you again: "Ouch, Ms. Sandalwood! Ahhhh!"

*WHACK!*

"Ouch is NOT a safe word," I admonish, and spank you some more.

I am the sadist who is going to tickle you in between bare-hand spankings, poke you in the ribs, pull your hair, and pinch you. You will squirm and squeal and try to get away, and I will giggle and gently mock you and simply continue until I'm ready to do something else. You might even laugh a little, too. I hope you do, but if you don't, that's OK, too. This weekend, my little subby actually yelled "DOG FUCKER!" and we had a laugh... and then I kept on going.

If you cry--and sometimes submissives do cry because being helpless is cathartic and they need to release all of that emotion--I will pet you, and hold you, and I will understand, too, that I have unlocked something powerful inside of you and I will cherish that. Because I'm that kind of sadist.

Saturday, April 15, 2017

Vortex Omaha's Kinky Karnival

Just a quick note to say Ms. Sandalwood & CharlotteNostalgia will be at Vortex Omaha's Kinky Karnival tonight. I'm doing a presentation on crossdressing with assistance and input from my sweet Jamie.

If you are attending and are a reader of the blog, be sure to say hello at the event :)

Event listing & info on FetLife: https://fetlife.com/events/542127

Thursday, April 13, 2017

Time and devotion

How may I serve you, Mistress?
I would do anything for you!
I'd love to serve in any way you see fit, Ma'am.

These are variations on messages I receive frequently on FetLife.

Why, yes. Yes, you can serve me. You're aware that service means doing something for me - for my own personal pleasure?

One of the acts of devotion that I may ask for (especially if you're long-distance) is a gift card. I know you work hard for your money and you might be hesitant to part with a little bit of it, particularly if you've never been with a Pro Domme before. But think of it this way:

You exchange time and talent for your paycheck.

Exchange.

That paycheck represents an exchange of your time, talent, and skills.

So really when you're spending money on something, it simply means is that you've given up some of your time for it. That's all. It's just a few hours of your time, as an act of devotion.

Now think, isn't that a genuinely sweet and nice thought, that you would give up some of your time in order to give something that really pleases me? I think it's really lovely. Send me an amazon eGift card! There are a few items that I'd like to buy for my kinky trousseau and you can be the one to help... and I'd be more than happy to post photos and thank you, my sweet. <3 Or how about gifting me a supporting membership on FetLife? Or paying for a manicure (ask me how)?

Kisses,

~SS

Saturday, April 8, 2017

Do you have a panty/lingerie fetish?

I'm frequently asked on FetLife what it is about crossdressers that I enjoy. I think many may be hoping I will say something like, "I love the shape of man's ass when he's wearing high heels," or "I love putting them in their place."

Because we're raised with so many images connecting lingerie, stockings, heels, etc. with women in a highly sexual way, that's an exciting image to many men and women alike. I do, in fact, find the clothing and shoes and accouterments sexy in and of themselves.

But all together, my attraction to crossdressers is more than just the clothes. It's the psychology of it all. I find that a man who is willing to put on lingerie, stockings, heels, makeup, etc. in the bedroom is usually exposing a lot of vulnerability. THAT turns me on. He is sharing with me something that is very intimate and exposing a side of himself that requires a lot of trust. A man who dresses en femme is taking a risk. [FetLife users can read more here.]

I'll be presenting a small talk & demo on crossdressing at Vortex Omaha on Saturday, April 15th. If you are curious about crossdressing or if you are interested in a session but want to meet me first, this would be a great way to do that. If you'd like to book your own private crossdressing session with me, follow the links to learn more about me, review my rates, and make an inquiry.

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Are you a "little" or ABDL?

One of my fondest play dates was a 24-hour stint as a "nanny" to an ABDL (adult "baby" - diaper lover) gentleman in Omaha a dozen or so ago. He was in diapers the whole time and his persona as a little was playful but not always 100% compliant. To be honest, it was work being "on" around the clock but I loved the playful nurturing and trying to figure out how to get him to cooperate without breaking his spirit.

Being a domme doesn't always mean whips, chains, & humiliation. Sometimes it means gently supporting another person as they let their guard down & become vulnerable. Often the best scenes are silly & tender rather than explicitly erotic. This is something I've really enjoyed as I've worked as a "nanny" and "teacher" with littles and ABDLs. In the past year, I've even hosted a couple of events for "bigs & littles" and it left me feeling warm and nurturing.

If this is something that interests you and you would like to arrange a scene, do get in touch.

Sunday, April 2, 2017

10 Reasons to attend local in-person events

Bare-bottom submissive bound on a workhorse

  1. More satisfying than just fiddling around on the computer wondering what this is like in real life. (Don't dream it... be it!)
  2. Meet people who know how to do stuff (and can show you).
  3. Safety in numbers!
  4. Good conversations.
  5. It's fun to watch demos and dungeon play.
  6. Body positivity. You will see all types of human beings in various states of dress & undress.
  7. Look at all the furniture you wish you had in your house!
  8. Holy crap, that's a fantastic flogger/singletail/violet wand.
  9. Dangerous people and BS artists usually don't last long.
  10. Networking--you just might connect with someone.